Sunday, October 7, 2012

Sense of self control

I ain't even mad! 

Isn't it sad how easy we are to lose our self control over the tiny space that is between the keyboard, and the internet?

One day we're gonna look back and realize how stupid we were to act like jerks there, and how insensitive we are with our words. How we forget that others can be hurt by those little act of insensitivity.

With that being said, there is an overwhelming lack of self control for us when we are to be held in front of what we view as a confrontation.

Take Facebook (here we go). How easy it is to think of everything in terms of comments and likes, forgetting that the real deal of the site (or at least that's how I view it as) is as a tool to connect with others. Not somewhere where you are to sit on a pedestal and act like jerks... or some dissatisfied jerks who just want to hurt.

Jerks nonetheless.

I'm not saying we have to pretend and be some sort of all-around good guy or whatever (one can only hold on to this mask for so long) - I guess just acting moderately is the keyword. It's kinda funny to think how we say things better left unsaid... or things you wouldn't even dare to say it outside even with the comfort of people who are in the same mindset as you are.

After countless ranting and the urge to drive an imaginary ax right up the whole thing, my view on social media is that it is a neutral thing in itself. It is us users who fouled it up and use it to spread ignorance, close mindedness, hate, and most important of all, stupidity. Such as shame really.

We expect too much from others and don't give enough where we should. And nothing shows that side of us with how we act here.

Like countless others, I'm especially guilty of manifestation of anger out here. I'm trying to just mellow down my temper and reminding myself how I'm lowering myself by losing self control out here by playing with their games. That is not to say that I won't go on ranting or whatnot (this piece of writing immediately disprove that) - just that it's bloody not worth it to take it out in the form of attacks to others. By doing so, you just prove others how much of a jerk you are.

We are responsible with how we react to others' words, just as much as we are to be responsible with our words to others. It goes two ways.

ADDENDUM: I'll be getting back into the groove of writing with similarly themed posts. There might be some cross referencing with my other blog... or I'll go dormant on that one.

Take it easy everyone.


  1. Jerks indeed. I admittedly have anger issues but I try to keep myself in check most times..

    That's a good point you raised about social media being inherently neutral. It's up to the users who decide what they will do with it. Perhaps long ago it was primarily about connecting with people in a positive way, but now there's just as much negativity. Cannot be helped.

    1. Yeah, I used to rage a lot with social media (well, a particular one actually), but then I realized it's people who ruins it. Ah well.